I have yet to meet a woman who dreams of a wimpy, insecure
guy who has no clue how to lead or take initiative in a relationship. But few
women realize that when they steal a guy’s position and become the initiator
rather than the responder, they shape men to be wimps, not warriors. Most women
are so eager for a guy’s approval that they carelessly throw themselves at any
guy who looks their way. Among today’s love hungry women, a man typically
doesn’t have to work very hard to win a woman’s heart and attention. In fact,
often all he needs to do is flirt for a couple minutes and the next thing he
knows, she’s completely given her heart, emotions and even her body to him.
Just like settling for less than a Christ-built man, throwing yourself at guys
cheapens the amazing work Christ has done for us. He gave up His very life to
make women into his radiant princesses. So why should women take such a gift
lightly by throwing our feminine hearts
to anything male that moves? Our heart, emotions, innocence and physical purity
are gifts from heaven. These treasures are only to be entrusted to one man (our future spouse) and only after he is truly worthy of such a gift.
Though most modern guys might appear to want women who are
aggressive and easy to get, this kind of femininity is not what will capture
the heart of a Christ-like man. God designed men to diligently and valiantly pursue a woman. Guys are naturally
intrigued by a woman of mystique, a woman who isn’t willing to auction her
heart & body to whomever passes by. If a man actually has to work to win a
woman’s heart, he will be far more likely to cherish and appreciate the gift
he’s labored so hard for. On the other hand, if a woman throws herself at him,
though he may initially respond, he won’t have much respect or appreciation for
her, and he will never learn how to cherish the treasure of her heart.
“But taking the initiative stage with a guy, even in the
friendship stage, can be dangerous. God designed men to be leaders, the
initiators and the pursuers of a relationship. The way you approach the early
stages of a relationship can set the tone for the entire relationship. When
women pursue men, the man’s masculine role is diminished, and this hinders them
from becoming the strong, confident leaders that God intends for them to be.
When a woman takes a leadership role, she subtly disregards a man’s authority
and position. If women take the lead in a friendship or relationship with a
guy, the weight falls on their shoulders to guide and govern the relationship from
that point forward- which is completely backward from God’s intent for
relationships.”
Leslie Ludy
