To my women - know your worth

 

 

Women. Know your worth.

Know that you are worthy.

You are more than enough.

Know yourself.

And love yourself.

You deserve respect, love, faithfulness.

You deserve it all.

God loves you.

You are His daughter.

He has your back.

Don't let a man make you feel unworthy.

Don't let a man break you down.

Your worth, your identity, is not dependent on any man.

A man does not define you.

There is nothing wrong with being alone.

There is nothing wrong with y o u.

Know your worth.

Know what you want, and more importantly, what you deserve.

You need a man who wants you.

Not a man who needs you, or relies on you.

A man who has genuine love and adoration for all that you are.

A man who simply w a n t s you.

All of you, forever.

He will do whatever it takes, every day.

He will be there.

His love will be proven to you.

You will feel important.

His effort will be clear.

 

But when a man let's you down, know that it is not you.

That falls on him, period.

Do not take it out on yourself.

Many men like the idea of you.

But they are not mature enough to handle the reality of you.

Don't you dare feel bad about yourself when someone doesn't want you.

Or when someone chooses to hurt you.

It's not you, it's them.

It is their character, their heart.

Not yours.

Don't you forget your worth.

Don't settle for less than you know you deserve.

Be confident in being alone.

Until a man walks into your life and proves himself.

You have a lot of love to give.

You deserve to be picky.

If a man cannot step up to the plate

then be okay with that.

Walk away.

Trust God's plan.

Wait for the right man who will love you selflessly.

A man whose focus is y o u, and not himself.

Know your worth.

You deserve the best.

You are an amazing woman.

No man should ever define your worth.

You will always be beautiful.

Hold tightly to the One who holds your future. 

 

Let Him Win Your Heart

I have yet to meet a woman who dreams of a wimpy, insecure guy who has no clue how to lead or take initiative in a relationship. But few women realize that when they steal a guy’s position and become the initiator rather than the responder, they shape men to be wimps, not warriors. Most women are so eager for a guy’s approval that they carelessly throw themselves at any guy who looks their way. Among today’s love hungry women, a man typically doesn’t have to work very hard to win a woman’s heart and attention. In fact, often all he needs to do is flirt for a couple minutes and the next thing he knows, she’s completely given her heart, emotions and even her body to him. Just like settling for less than a Christ-built man, throwing yourself at guys cheapens the amazing work Christ has done for us. He gave up His very life to make women into his radiant princesses. So why should women take such a gift lightly  by throwing our feminine hearts to anything male that moves? Our heart, emotions, innocence and physical purity are gifts from heaven. These treasures are only to be entrusted to one man (our future spouse) and only after he is truly worthy of such a gift.

Though most modern guys might appear to want women who are aggressive and easy to get, this kind of femininity is not what will capture the heart of a Christ-like man. God designed men to diligently and valiantly pursue a woman. Guys are naturally intrigued by a woman of mystique, a woman who isn’t willing to auction her heart & body to whomever passes by. If a man actually has to work to win a woman’s heart, he will be far more likely to cherish and appreciate the gift he’s labored so hard for. On the other hand, if a woman throws herself at him, though he may initially respond, he won’t have much respect or appreciation for her, and he will never learn how to cherish the treasure of her heart.

 

“But taking the initiative stage with a guy, even in the friendship stage, can be dangerous. God designed men to be leaders, the initiators and the pursuers of a relationship. The way you approach the early stages of a relationship can set the tone for the entire relationship. When women pursue men, the man’s masculine role is diminished, and this hinders them from becoming the strong, confident leaders that God intends for them to be. When a woman takes a leadership role, she subtly disregards a man’s authority and position. If women take the lead in a friendship or relationship with a guy, the weight falls on their shoulders to guide and govern the relationship from that point forward- which is completely backward from God’s intent for relationships.”

 

-Answering the guy questions-
Leslie Ludy

Daughters of God

She wept and laughed with all her heart.
She owned her mistakes & continued to walk steadily down the path laid before her.
She had power & command, yet she never allowed it to strip her of compassion.
She had a great sense of humor.
She had clear direction and purpose.
She refused to negotiate with the enemy.


These are character traits worthy of every women's attention & development.


daughters are filled with love, beauty, hope and tenderness.
a daughter smiles, hugs and laughs.
she is a seeker of the truth and asks many questions.
longing to know who she is.
she is a friend, and a comfort.
a daughter is a precious pearl.


Daughters of God.


we are connected, us daughters.
we do not need to be related by blood, we are related by Jesus.
anyone who does the will of my father in heaven, is my brother & sister and mother.
matthew 12:50
sometimes we recognize our spiritual DNA inside of someone else.
we feel connected to them, somehow.
soul sisters and brothers and mothers...
we find those people who teach us something about ourselves.
we see ourselves in them.
they serve a purpose, maybe for a few months, years,
maybe for a lifetime.


Let your past be your teacher, let your future be your friend.


when I met with her, she always encouraged & nurtured the gift of God in my life.
each time I saw her she spoke words of reassurance and wisdom.
she dropped such things as precious jewels into my lap.
lessons she learned through hardship and suffering she offered freely to me.
and she was honest.
the greatest gift she ever gave me was her belief in the calling on my life.
she saw something in me.
maybe it was her own self she saw in me, for that season.
heaven only knows, but she loved me so well.


So you see, faith by itself isn't enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is worthless.


We all want to feel noticed, acknowledged, touched and drawn in.
In light of this, the house of God is where we should feel embraced, warm, safe & sound.
amongst other Christians we are filled up.
but our nurture should not be confined to the Christian realm.
we must then take it out into the world.
we must reach out and touch others everywhere we go.
so many daughters are out there waiting to be noticed.

what to do when the roof caves in

When it all caves in...
We must ask ourselves,  is a cave-in really happening?
We need to avoid "awful-izing" what is happening to us.
Level headed thinking.
What we think can totally skew what reality really is.


As Christians we think calamities should not happen to us.
It messes with our minds.
Our faith in God should prevent devastation from happening to us..
Right?
We allow small calamities, but never the big stuff.
We begin to question God.
Is he indifferent to the suffering of his children?
Does he not love us?


When our life caves in, many times the solution requires us to think outside the box.
And many times, our problems can be solved simply by changing our way of thinking.
Sometimes changing your way of thinking wont make the problem disappear,
but it can change the way we respond to it, and how defeated we allow ourselves to feel by it.
Is your reaction to one of life's problems based on what you truly believe.?
If you're a Christian who responds with doubt in God, is that truly what you believe?
Where is your faith?
Sometimes we respond to calamity in a way that is out of our character.
In those cases, we must stop and reevaluate ourselves.


To think is to apply reason to a situation.
To believe is to have faith in a situation.


But don't get me wrong,
there are some cave-ins that are out of our control.
When devastation occurs, we have two choices.
We can pull ourselves out from under the rubble,
or we can curl up and lie there,  in hopes to die.
Sometimes we feel such pain that our faith alters, or we lose it all together.
and sometimes we have no idea how to fix this loss of faith & doubt in God.


"I'll never fully understand evil, and why it hits some,  skips others,  or totally buries a few "


What I do know is this.
When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, the universe fell under the weight of that sin.
And we have lived under the rubble of that cave-in ever since.
God did not will for devastation to fall upon us.
To sin was a human choice,
We were meant to live in a world devoid of "cave-ins"
To sin was a human choice, and God allowed that human choice.
But now,  as we sit in the disastrous consequence of that choice,
God promises to bring good out of the bad.
That is his sovereign intent.

As hard as it may be,  we must believe that God will bring beauty from ashes.
That there will be beauty from pain.
God will work everything together for the good of those who love him..
We must believe that there are treasures found in darkness.
It may not be possible to see the good in the midst of the bad,
but we must believe that it will be revealed to us someday.
There is wealth for our souls hidden in the mess of those cave-ins.
And this wealth for our souls is the kind that can only be found in darkness.
In darkness, we discover God's abundant love.
it is a love that never fails, no matter what the circumstance.
Nothing can separate us from God's love.


Some cave-ins can be prevented,  others not so much.
In the beginning,  humans chose to sin, to go against God.
now we live in that consequence.
We choose to sin, others choose to sin against us.
this world is filled with good, and evil.
we will never fully understand evil, or why certain things happen.
but we mustn't blame God for devastation.
God loves us, and he always will.
he is the only constant,  good,  sovereign thing we have in this world.
Nothing will take his love away from us. Not a thing.
and even though our trials are unwanted,  unnecessary, & unbearable,
GOD WILL WORK ALL THINGS TOGETHER FOR OUR GOOD.

and that is a promise.
rest in him.
let him carry you.
held in his arms.





to be continued...
Natalie